Ayesha Curry & thoughts on Modesty
If you’re anything like me, I try to steer clear of all social media related drama and controversies. In fact, I’m so out of the loop that when I scroll through my Instagram timeline, I often have no clue what some of the meme’s are referring to. Thankfully, my friends do a good job of giving me the 411. But, I will admit that on Sunday night, I had to get into all of the backlash towards a tweet Ayesha Curry sent out.
If you don’t know the Curry’s, you’re sleeping under a rock—or you just don’t follow their social media accounts. Not to digress—but Stephen Curry isn’t just an NBA All-Star and champion, but he and his wife Ayesha are a young Christian couple who met at youth group. I know, goals—actual goals. If you haven’t caught their precious Dubsmash videos or candid family photos, you’re missing out on a great example of what it looks like to be young, married and saved.
So on Sunday night, Ayesha sent out a tweet that had the internet going, cray-cray:
Homegirl, just innocently made a comment about a struggle I constantly have with today’s fashion trends. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am all into embracing my twenties and rocking the latest—but I refuse to do this at the expense of my own self-worth. Modesty isn’t just about covering up all of your “assets” but it is about how you value your body and self-worth.
As I scrolled through the comments that were made after her tweet, many people made the argument that Curry’s tweet made women feel objectified and shamed others who choose to show their skin. The most outlandish conclusion I saw were the individuals who stated that getting a husband or being married is not contingent on how much skin one shows (this is true, but…) and even used Kim Kardashian as a prime example **stares at the ceiling and sighs deeply**.
As per usual, individuals often reach to conclusions and make statements that cover up their own ignorance regarding a topic. I remember a few years ago, taking the time to read feminist theories and even studied black feminist theory on many occasions—and truth be told, their thoughts were beyond feeling objectified. In fact, the foundation of feminism was built on the suffrage movement of the 1920’s, in which women fought for the right to vote. Fast forward 80 or so years later, our culture has reduced feminism to arguments on modesty and same-sex attraction.
I strongly stand by what Ayesha said, because as a woman who strives to live out the will of God in my life, I chose to remain modesty in the way that I dress because I respect this masterpiece that God has created. I always pray that I will see myself the way that God sees me, and because of this, it is very difficult for me to expose certain areas of my body.
Modesty is and can be very sexy. I don’t need to wear a skirt that sweeps the ground I walk on to be considered modest—in fact, I think that being forced to do that can sometimes take away from self-expression. Actually, it is about being creative with fabrics, layers, tailoring and creating a personal style that you can be proud of. I love my curves and am learning to accentuate them even the more, but never will I purposefully draw unnecessary attention to myself. Instead, I do just enough so that my personality, poise and mind speak for me, rather than placing my goodies on display.
Above all, modesty is a journey, and I must admit that I’ve had my fair share of immodest moments both purposefully and not. One thing I’ve learned over the years is that embracing the mindset of modesty as a male or female should not be about appearing to look a certain way or for the approval of church members. Instead, modesty extends from one’s personal relationship with God and the earnest purist of feeling comfortable in your own skin. Modesty is also about behavior, attitude, character and inward beauty.
In a world wear it's more accepted to wear cut-out dresses that look more like lingerie and where I have to question whether something is a dress or a shirt, it's safe to say that modesty is a conversation that certainly needs to be revisited. Thanks to Ayesha for getting the ball rolling and always staying true to herself.
Hot & Modest a.k.a. MsYencko